Posted by : foongpc | Thursday, April 29, 2010 | Published in


Do you still believe in coincidence? Let me tell you this - there is no such thing as coincidence. Everything happens for a reason and you are the cause of everything that happens or will ever happen to you.

I know, some of you would say I'm talking nonsense. A few years back I would have agreed with you. But I learnt that if you look at the bigger picture and you become aware of the big picture and you stand outside of you observing yourself and your life, you will soon realize that every event, everything that happened to you had happened in the most perfect way imaginable.

As such, I have stopped blaming others for my misfortunes. Firstly, blaming others means you are not taking responsibility for what happened. Not taking responsibility means you are giving control to that person you blame. In other words, you are the poor, helpless victim.

Secondly, do be aware that you are the cause of your own misfortune. It's difficult to comprehend this at first. I mean, how can you say that I cause my own sickness? It would be madness to tell a victim of a robbery that he or she was robbed because he or she wanted it! Ridiculous right?

Well, not really. In actual fact, everything that happens to us must first come to us by the way of attraction. We are like magnets that attract things and events into our lives.

Take for example, you and your neighbour work nights and both of you walk back home every night. You get robbed twice but your neighbour is unharmed. Why? Are you more unlucky than your neighbour?

The answer lies in your beliefs. Probably you believe that people are basically bad and dishonest. Or you are always fearful of being robbed because you heard a lot of such robbery cases. Your negative beliefs attract the negative energies creating a physical manifestation that resulted in you being robbed!

Your neighbour on the other hand, probably believes that people are basically good. Her positive beliefs in turn attract positive energies and therefore she gets home safe and well.

Now you may not believe that people are bad, but probably you did something dishonest at work and this guilty feeling will also attract the negative energies because you subconsciously believe that you should be punished for your dishonesty.

Some of you may lash out at me and say this is complete rubbish! You may ask, do you mean that those people who perished in the recent earthquake in Haiti deserve it because they attracted the misfortune to themselves?

To answer this, I will not say yes or no. That's because I'm not fully enlightened to provide an answer to such a question!

But personally, I would say there is no coincidence in life. Things happen for a reason, and if you happen to be a victim of an earthquake or a tornado or a tsunami, you are probably there at the right time and the right moment for some reason.

Everything is happening perfectly. There are no chaos or random events although they may not seem to be so.

That is why do not fight life. Do not fight events and circumstances in your life. Instead accept them and go with the flow. Start thinking positively and create positive energies. Even though it may seem that your life is fated, I believe that we are in this world to create and re-create.

You can change your fate. You can change your beliefs. And as such, you can change your life for the better.

For more information on this topic, read books by the following authors - Deepak Chopra, Wayne W Dyer, Neale Donald Walsch, Christopher Stone, Shakti Gawain, Esther Hicks, Masaru Emoto, Eckhart Tolle.

Note: I am taking a break from my usual Bali travel posts. They will be back in my next upcoming post, so stay tuned : )


(82) Comments

  1. Sherry said...

    you are right

    April 29, 2010 at 1:41 PM
  2. fufu said...

    yeah agree... friends told me that japan has numerous earthquakes and i experiences them several times a year yet i am still alive now... i am heading to a country that predicted may be the next victim of earthquake... but i dont really care...if He wants me to die... i can die anywhere... *oh i know He loves me* hihihi

    April 29, 2010 at 1:47 PM
  3. iamthewitch said...

    Yes I believe everything happens for a reason... it may not seem apparent when it happened, but it will be clear in time. Sometimes they are blessings in disguise..

    April 29, 2010 at 1:50 PM
  4. bluedreamer27 said...

    yike missed the FC haha

    April 29, 2010 at 1:50 PM
  5. bluedreamer27 said...

    i agree with you... there's no such thing as coincidence... there nothing in this world that is exactly alike

    April 29, 2010 at 1:52 PM
  6. bluedreamer27 said...

    we are building our own fate... it is a choice!

    April 29, 2010 at 1:53 PM
  7. bluedreamer27 said...

    yup... everything happens for a reason... so if you failed on something... don't lose hope and think as if you are the the most misfortune man in the world...

    April 29, 2010 at 1:55 PM
  8. bluedreamer27 said...

    take it as a challenge ... and not as a failure that will discourage you in the rest of your life...

    April 29, 2010 at 1:55 PM
  9. bluedreamer27 said...

    thanks for sharing this foong... so true... have a great day and happy blogging

    will lookk forward to your next post!

    April 29, 2010 at 1:57 PM
  10. Caroline said...

    yea agree with you. :) i dont believe so called coincidence thingy. hmm. maybe for what i'd experienced before.

    April 29, 2010 at 2:01 PM
  11. Caroline said...

    glad you are not blaming others anymore! :p haha.

    April 29, 2010 at 2:02 PM
  12. Caroline said...

    ehem.. last time got ppl told me all the entries about Bali will finish by the end of the month.. n now...?? *doink* hahaha its ok la actually. :)

    April 29, 2010 at 2:03 PM
  13. eiling lim said...

    i believe everything happened with a reason but one thing we must constantly believe is that we can change it if we want to.

    April 29, 2010 at 2:05 PM
  14. Cynful Pleasure said...

    oh ya.. I agree with this.. and the more you start to 'blame' things will get worse..

    April 29, 2010 at 2:13 PM
  15. Pete said...

    Agree, we are masters of our own destiny....

    April 29, 2010 at 2:34 PM
  16. RoseBelle said...

    I believe everything happens for a reason. We're all intertwined in our destinies and are connected by fate which is a result of karma. Some will argue that karma is just pure coincidence. I don't try to convince people to believe in karma. It's something that everyone will have to face on their own and when the time come, they will learn.

    April 29, 2010 at 2:41 PM
  17. Reanaclaire said...

    i only believes that everything that had happened have a reason, we do not need to question why... most important, the God I believe will help me through it all.. :)

    April 29, 2010 at 2:45 PM
  18. CH Voon said...

    sure, i agree with you.

    Positive thinking make all good come true.

    April 29, 2010 at 3:44 PM
  19. CH Voon said...

    but sometimes it is depend on luck as well.

    why happy people always die early than bad guy?


    April 29, 2010 at 3:46 PM
  20. Alex said...

    Yes. I also agree with you that there is no such thing as coincidence.Every thing has a perfect reason to occur.
    Ok I awaiting to see next post about your favorite spot Bali.TK

    April 29, 2010 at 3:55 PM
  21. Kelvin said...

    Hmm...there is actually some truth to ur words:)

    April 29, 2010 at 4:12 PM
  22. FOODnTRAVELla said...

    We only live once! Whatever comes around, goes around.

    April 29, 2010 at 5:12 PM
  23. [SK] said...

    haha, taking a break from your Bali post?? hmmm, why?? i was enjoying that leh..

    April 29, 2010 at 5:56 PM
  24. [SK] said...

    i was enjoying your blasting of Bali post, then suddenly this post become so serious.. i gotta adjust myself for such a sudden change.. :p

    April 29, 2010 at 5:56 PM
  25. [SK] said...

    ok ok, let me be serious also.. i think this post if food for thoughts.. provoke our thinking..

    April 29, 2010 at 5:57 PM
  26. [SK] said...

    hmmm, i kind of think what you have mentioned in this post make sense, you got your point..

    April 29, 2010 at 5:59 PM
  27. [SK] said...

    actually i would say there's nobody's wrong and nobody's right.. it's just opinions and thinkings from every individual..

    April 29, 2010 at 6:00 PM
  28. [SK] said...

    it very much depends on how we perceive things.. for the same thing, each one of us will see it differently.. and that is what makes arguments..

    April 29, 2010 at 6:01 PM
  29. [SK] said...

    anyway, i actually like the way you try to explain "coincidence".. it really makes me think about it for a while.. and yeah, you got your point that there's no coincidence, but it is all about the course of our actions..

    April 29, 2010 at 6:04 PM
  30. [SK] said...

    so everything happens for a reason.. and can you say that everything happens for a purpose as well?? something to think abou.. :)

    April 29, 2010 at 6:05 PM
  31. Ken Wooi said...

    i believe that things happen for a reason, even though we may not know what's it.. =)

    April 29, 2010 at 10:08 PM
  32. HappySurfer said...

    Indeed everything that happens, happens for a reason though most times, we won't know the reason until later.

    April 29, 2010 at 11:50 PM
  33. HappySurfer said...

    Life is more a cause-and-effect kinda thing. The results we get today are because of what we did yesterday and what we'll get tomorrow will be what we're doing today.

    April 29, 2010 at 11:51 PM
  34. HappySurfer said...

    Karma is universal and transcends religions. Karma doesn't decrease. The counter doesn't stop - it keeps adding on, for both good karma and bad karma. Just rewards (good and/or bad) will come around thus what goes around, comes around.

    Great post, Foong.

    April 29, 2010 at 11:57 PM
  35. Cloudia said...

    I too have discovered this to be true.. .

    Aloha from Waikiki

    Comfort Spiral

    April 30, 2010 at 7:09 AM
  36. இ Baŋäŋaz இ said...

    The wise man has spoken. Very well said. Mind your mind mindfully to purify your mind. ~;) tQ.

    April 30, 2010 at 8:31 AM
  37. Cashmere said...

    Yes, I agree everything has a reason.. but I still believe luck has a small part in it some times.. :)

    April 30, 2010 at 10:28 AM
  38. foongpc said...

    sherry, thanks! Btw, you are the first commenter today! : )

    April 30, 2010 at 1:06 PM
  39. foongpc said...

    fufu, wow you experienced earthquakes several times in Japan and came out of them alive? Yes, He definitely loves you!! : )

    April 30, 2010 at 1:07 PM
  40. foongpc said...

    iamthewitch, yes sometimes the unfortunate events turn out to be blessings in disguise! : )

    April 30, 2010 at 1:08 PM
  41. foongpc said...

    bluedreamer27, you are quite enlightened aren't you? haha! Happy blogging to you too! : )

    April 30, 2010 at 1:09 PM
  42. foongpc said...

    caroline ng, I actually don't blame others - in your case, I'm kidding only haha!

    I didn't promise about finishing the Bali posts by end of the month - I said I'll do my best but as it turns out, I still have a few more posts to go! LOL!

    April 30, 2010 at 1:11 PM
  43. foongpc said...

    eiling lim, yes indeed! : )

    April 30, 2010 at 1:11 PM
  44. foongpc said...

    cynthia, yes agree! : )

    April 30, 2010 at 1:12 PM
  45. foongpc said...

    pete, we are indeed masters of our own destiny! : )

    April 30, 2010 at 1:12 PM
  46. foongpc said...

    rosebelle, oh I do believe in karma! It's very real and is happening to us even as we speak! : )

    April 30, 2010 at 1:13 PM
  47. foongpc said...

    reanaclaire, yes no need to question why : )

    April 30, 2010 at 1:14 PM
  48. foongpc said...

    CH Voon, why happy people always die earlier than bad guy? I didn't notice this - is it true?

    But here's my theory - the reason people die is because they have completed their purpose here on earth and happy people mostly have fulfilled all they wanted to do so it's time for them to go! : )

    April 30, 2010 at 1:16 PM
  49. foongpc said...

    alex, next post coming up soon! : )

    April 30, 2010 at 1:17 PM
  50. foongpc said...

    foodntravel, yes whatever comes around, goes around : )

    April 30, 2010 at 1:19 PM
  51. foongpc said...

    SK, I just needed to blog about this topic so putting the Bali posts on hold. Also some of my readers may need a breather from all the Bali posts! Haha.
    But good to know you are enjoying my Bali posts! Thanks! : )

    Yeah everyone has his or own opinion and different viewpoints. So that's why I believe in my own truths.

    You are right - everything happens for a reason and for a purpose as well. We only look at things from our point of view but if we stand outside ourselves and observe ourselves and others, we will get to see a higher awareness of what is actually happening - that everything is happening according to plan.

    April 30, 2010 at 1:23 PM
  52. foongpc said...

    kenwooi, yes indeed : )

    April 30, 2010 at 1:24 PM
  53. foongpc said...

    happysurfer, yes totally believe in karma. Actions and consequences - all happening right now : )

    April 30, 2010 at 1:25 PM
  54. foongpc said...

    cloudia, glad you found your truths : )

    April 30, 2010 at 1:26 PM
  55. foongpc said...

    bananaz, oh you mean me the wise man? Haha! No I am not the wise man, just learning to be wise : )

    April 30, 2010 at 1:27 PM
  56. foongpc said...

    cashmere, probably, but what you call luck may well be something that is already planned : )

    April 30, 2010 at 1:28 PM
  57. Donna said...

    yea.. very true lol... that is why i believe in karma.. ahaha..

    P/S: no need send me another prize la.. ahaha, u have sent it, and I am yet to receive it still, that's fate.. XD..

    April 30, 2010 at 2:33 PM
  58. Donna said...

    ok.. lunch break is over~~

    April 30, 2010 at 2:35 PM
  59. jam said...

    I agree with what you said. I am always telling myself and others, "Every happening has a reasoning".

    April 30, 2010 at 2:36 PM
  60. jam said...

    On the other hand, always do good as the good things you do to others will come back good to you.

    April 30, 2010 at 2:38 PM
  61. Web Design Solutions said...

    Thanks for the post.Liked the topic that you discussed over here.In my childhood days i used to believe a lot in coincidence but not anymore now.I agree with most of the things that you've mentioned over here.Good one.

    April 30, 2010 at 3:05 PM
  62. CheaHSan said...

    Think [Bananaz] made a typo should be "vice" man instead of wise man hahaha. No coincidence! What goes around comes around. Life is just like throwing a boomerang.

    April 30, 2010 at 4:34 PM
  63. cre8tone said...


    April 30, 2010 at 6:22 PM
  64. Merryn said...

    so there is no coincidence that you are a panda? u r black n white panda n not a black n white zebra for a reason? hmm... must dig what's the reason there :P thank god u r not a tapir :D

    April 30, 2010 at 10:12 PM
  65. இ Baŋäŋaz இ said...

    [Merryn] that's a good one kakaka korek korek...~;)

    May 1, 2010 at 12:13 AM
  66. இ Baŋäŋaz இ said...

    Happy Labour Day ~;)

    A Special Tribute 2U

    May 1, 2010 at 10:22 AM
  67. Ayie said...

    good points there foong

    happy weekend!

    May 2, 2010 at 10:24 AM
  68. Merryn said...

    :D Bananaz.. he's not answering my 'digging' leh.. :P

    May 4, 2010 at 1:05 PM
  69. Hanging lamps said...

    Hi great post thanks for impressive sharing.

    May 6, 2010 at 9:14 PM
  70. David said...

    Yes, I do agree with you. I firmly believe that there is nothing called coincidence. If anything happens, it happens because it was ought to happen. I don’t find any proper explanation for this type of illogical things in this 21st century. Thanks for the post. Bye.

    May 7, 2010 at 3:45 PM
  71. foongpc said...

    donna, I believe in karma too : )

    May 12, 2010 at 4:41 PM
  72. foongpc said...

    jam, yes do good things and good things will come to you : )

    May 12, 2010 at 4:42 PM
  73. foongpc said...

    web design solution, thanks for reading this post! Have a good day! : )

    May 12, 2010 at 4:44 PM
  74. foongpc said...

    cheahs@n, life is just like throwing a boomerang? Nice one : )

    May 12, 2010 at 4:44 PM
  75. foongpc said...

    prince n princess mum, glad you agree! : )

    May 12, 2010 at 4:45 PM
  76. foongpc said...

    merryn, LOL!

    May 12, 2010 at 4:46 PM
  77. foongpc said...

    bananaz, Happy Labour Day to you too : ) And thanks for that very special tribute! Appreciate it! : )

    May 12, 2010 at 4:47 PM
  78. foongpc said...

    ayie, happy weekend to you too : )

    May 12, 2010 at 4:47 PM
  79. foongpc said...

    merryn, no comment : )

    May 12, 2010 at 4:48 PM
  80. foongpc said...

    hanging lamps, you are welcome and thanks! : )

    May 12, 2010 at 4:49 PM
  81. foongpc said...

    david, thanks for your comment. And thanks for dropping by! : )

    May 12, 2010 at 4:50 PM
  82. Web Development Company said...

    I agree with most of the points you mentioned and i used to believe on coincidence. But now i dont believe on coincidence but my deep inside still believe. Thanks for nice post.

    September 22, 2011 at 2:40 AM