Are Men Promiscuous And Three Minute Wonders?

Posted by : foongpc | Monday, March 23, 2009 | Published in


I have been reading this book by Allan and Barbara Pease called "Why Men Don't Listen & Women Can't Read Maps" and I must tell you, it's one of the most interesting books I've ever read!

From the book, I learnt why most men are promiscuous in nature.

You see, promiscuity is wired into a man's brain and is a legacy of his evolutionary past. Throughout human history, wars were fought and had greatly diminished the number of men, so mating became an important activity to increase the tribe's population to ensure their survival.

For this to happen, nature equipped men with large hypothalamus and enormous amount of testosterone.

Hypothalamus is the part of the brain that controls sexual drive. It helps to stimulate the production of testosterone. Men have a larger hypothalamus than women. As a result, men have 10 to 20 times more testosterone than women. That's the reason why men have higher sex drive!

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The sad thing is, in this modern times, men still have large hypothalamus and lots of testosterone although they no longer need to. Perhaps this explains why men are promiscuous and polygamous in nature.

Is it any wonder that a woman wants lots of sex with the man she loves but a man just wants lots of sex? : )

However, this is by no means an excuse for men to have affairs outside of marriage. Despite being promiscuous by nature, men can still control their sexual urges.

A healthy man takes an average of about 2 and a half minutes to reach orgasm from a cold start. A healthy woman reaches orgasm in 13 minutes! That is why men are known as 3 minute wonders!

Perhaps that is why after love making, the woman will complain to the man and say "You're a lousy lover!" And the man will respond by asking "How can you tell that in 2 minutes?" : )

Why men had it all done in a few short minutes? In other words, why are men quickies? Well, if you look at nature, you will notice that copulations in mammals are all fast affairs because during copulation, the animals are vulnerable to attack from predators and their enemies. Therefore, the quickies is nature's way of preserving the species.

However, as modern men are not being hunted down by any predators, they have no need to have it all done with fast.

So if you are a man, may i ask if you are promiscuous and a 3 minute wonder?

And if you are a woman, what do you think of all these?

There are a lot more interesting topics in the book, and I highly recommend that you read them! One of the topics I will touch on in my next post is homosexuality. So, stay tuned!


(63) Comments

  1. Merryn said...

    Men ARE promiscuous and ONE minute wonder!!!! btw.. i'm not a MAN!

    March 23, 2009 at 12:14 AM
  2. .:: Ant ::. said...

    3-minute wonder....sounds like maggi mee! lolz

    To a woman, it's love. To a man, it's lust. It is however, quite wrong, i think, to equate men to animals although we fall into the same category of "mammals". Studies on copulatory behaviors are just after all, studies. We know we can just rely on these mostly-skewed studies.

    Neways, 2and a half minute sounds ....soooooo hurried! We would want to prolong the pleasure, right? wakakaka

    March 23, 2009 at 12:14 AM
  3. GagayMD said...


    missed FC again Foong!!!

    March 23, 2009 at 12:19 AM
  4. GagayMD said...

    yeah!! men, indeed are promiscuous!! hek hek hek!!

    March 23, 2009 at 12:22 AM
  5. Twilight Man said...

    This is the first time I heard that men have higher sex drive than women! Was that Foongpc's own analysis?

    March 23, 2009 at 1:35 AM
  6. Mariuca said...

    EH sure or nooooot GG? He he!

    March 23, 2009 at 5:33 AM
  7. Mariuca said...

    Missed FC again la Foong! :(

    March 23, 2009 at 5:33 AM
  8. Mariuca said...

    Men might have this "excuse" to be promiscuous, but doesn make it right! :(

    March 23, 2009 at 5:34 AM
  9. Mariuca said...

    Dropping ec here today Foong, happy Monday! :):):)

    March 23, 2009 at 5:34 AM
  10. lina said...

    all I can say is... excuses, excuses.

    March 23, 2009 at 8:20 AM
  11. Anonymous

    I agree with Lina!

    March 23, 2009 at 8:31 AM
  12. Anonymous

    Well, I am a 100% man! What more can I say?

    March 23, 2009 at 8:32 AM
  13. lina said...

    but I think, some of our "esteemed" MPs would love to talk/debate at length about this.

    By reading about what the MPs said, seemed like Malaysian men can't control their sexual urges. :( So weak...

    March 23, 2009 at 8:39 AM
  14. iamthewitch said...

    LOL this book indeed is funny! Have a quickie huh? I thought men like to make the experience as long as it can last to enjoy it?? :P

    March 23, 2009 at 8:40 AM
  15. Babette said...

    First of all, there are woman who can read a map and I'm one of those. LOL Second, not all men are promiscuous. I married one that is an exception to that rule. :o)

    March 23, 2009 at 9:09 AM
  16. eiling lim said...

    I agree with what you've said. It takes a longer time for women to achieve orgasm because sex is a process involving foreplay, intercourse and the post intercourse. If one of it is not satisfactory, I wouldn't say the sex is good. But for men, they can just go straight into intercourse and they are satisfied! Let's just say, women are complicated human beings.

    March 23, 2009 at 9:39 AM
  17. TZ said...

    Interesting topic.... :)

    March 23, 2009 at 9:57 AM
  18. Anonymous

    well generally i think u r right!

    March 23, 2009 at 10:14 AM
  19. Nick Phillips (15/03/1967 - 04/11/2022) said...

    LOL! You've just given all men an excuse to be promiscuous, just blame it on a large hypothalamus and enormous amount of testosterone. hahaha ...

    March 23, 2009 at 10:17 AM
  20. Anonymous

    Proverbs 25:28 - Like a city whose walls are broken down is a man who lacks self-control.

    March 23, 2009 at 10:58 AM
  21. foongpc said...

    merryn, haha! Reduced from 3 mins to ONE minute? Are you talking about your hubby? LOL!!

    anton, really do sounds like instant noodles Maggi Mee! Haha! Yeah, studies are not always accurate, but at least they did some studies so we have something to refer to. I'm sure we all want to prolong the pleasure : )

    gagay, oh! You just missed FC narrowly! Well, better luck next time! Not all men are promiscuous you know. I wrote MOST men, not ALL men : )

    March 23, 2009 at 11:44 AM
  22. foongpc said...

    twilight zone, you mean women have higher sex drive? No, this is not my own analysis, got the info from the book : )

    mariuca, I guess it's not right and I hope men don't use this as an excuse, me included. LOL!

    lina, haha! It's the "perfect" excuse - backed by science. How to fight? LOL!

    March 23, 2009 at 11:49 AM
  23. foongpc said...

    mei teng, haha! Wow! Some more give me a quote from the Bible. Just proves that men lacks self control because he's made that way. Otherwise how to increase the tribe's population? Hahaha!

    jam, so you agree you are promiscuous and a 3 minute wonder? And you lack self control and are weak? : )

    lina, yeah now the MPs have the perfect excuse all backed by science. LOL!

    March 23, 2009 at 11:55 AM
  24. foongpc said...

    iamthewitch, no, I think it's the women who like it to last longer. Men just want to do it quickly and then go to sleep. Haha!

    babette, you are right. There are always exceptions. Anyway, this is just in general. Not all men are promiscuous and not all women can't read maps. It's all in the balance of the male hormones you received while you were still a foetus in your mom's womb. Will go into more detail in my next post! : )

    March 23, 2009 at 12:00 PM
  25. foongpc said...

    eiling, I do agree women are complicated human beings! Women like the foreplay (pre-intercourse), intercourse (main) and post intercourse. Men just skips the pre and post and jumps straight into the main act. Haha!

    TZ, interesting indeed. So are you promiscuous and a 3 minute wonder? : )

    March 23, 2009 at 12:08 PM
  26. lina said...

    "iamthewitch, no, I think it's the women who like it to last longer. Men just want to do it quickly and then go to sleep. Haha!"
    are you talking about yourself there? LOL Kidding!

    March 23, 2009 at 12:09 PM
  27. foongpc said...

    nic, oh no, please don't say I'm right! I'm just posting what is written in the book. If not, the ladies will all kill me! Haha! But in general, men are indeed promiscuous and are 3 minute wonders : )

    nick phillips, yeah, perfect excuse backed by science! But it only works in the ancient times. Modern times men don't need large hypothalamus and enormous amount of testosterone anymore, so I guess men would just have to exercise self control : )

    March 23, 2009 at 12:13 PM
  28. foongpc said...

    lina, haha! I'm talking about men in general. So you know, there are exceptions ; )

    March 23, 2009 at 12:15 PM
  29. levian said...

    that sorta indirectly explains why men are less patience than women, for they wanna be quick in everything just to get it over with. :p

    March 23, 2009 at 1:11 PM
  30. eastcoastlife said...

    That is not true. Not for our case. lol

    My man is an exception.

    March 23, 2009 at 5:01 PM
  31. eastcoastlife said...

    This is so amusing. I have several close lady friends who are happily married and they would probably think this is silly. I will get the books for them. haha....

    March 23, 2009 at 5:03 PM
  32. khengsiong said...

    Mammals are usually polygamous. Birds are usually monogamous.

    But there is one area human is different from other animals: Human can have sex year round; Other animals have mating seasons.

    March 23, 2009 at 5:22 PM
  33. LifeRamblings said...

    I think I'm pretty good at map-reading so I must be an exception.

    March 23, 2009 at 5:38 PM
  34. LifeRamblings said...

    not all men are promiscuous. My DH is an exception.

    March 23, 2009 at 5:40 PM
  35. JL said...

    I'm not a 3-minute wonder leh, I'm not that kuat XD

    And well I'm not promiscuous as I was brought up to be the goody two shoes :p

    March 23, 2009 at 6:53 PM
  36. JL said...

    Woooh so foongpc are you a 3-minute wonder? XD

    March 23, 2009 at 6:55 PM
  37. Borneo Falcon said...

    I have an award for you in my blog. Go grab it

    March 23, 2009 at 7:00 PM
  38. Johnny Ong said...

    wow, so after researching on this topic .... u are coming up with a thesis later? hehe

    March 23, 2009 at 7:35 PM
  39. Anonymous

    OMG! Really 2 minute ah? Later i try test .. hihihi

    March 24, 2009 at 12:52 AM
  40. Monica said...

    Perhaps, it's the only excuse men have!!

    March 24, 2009 at 2:32 AM
  41. Ayie said... husband's an exception! hahaha

    March 24, 2009 at 6:00 AM
  42. Anonymous

    oh my! Very interesting info for me to think about. Never thought of it this way!

    March 24, 2009 at 10:00 AM
  43. eiling lim said...

    Which is why men are missing the most enjoyable part of love-making because sometimes the best dish comes last!

    March 24, 2009 at 11:01 AM
  44. [SK] said...

    haha, that is interesting, but having higher sex urge = promiscuous?? i don't think they can be drawn with an equal sign woh.. :)

    March 24, 2009 at 1:50 PM
  45. Anonymous

    haha i TOTALLY agree with men having more sex drive than women.. =D

    btw, im currently on blogger platform.. just bought the domain and use blogger as my hosting space.. and why in the first place google wanna ban my blog?? lol i've never thought about that.. =P

    March 24, 2009 at 3:33 PM
  46. HalfCrazy said...

    Ooh, thanks for the info regarding Hypothalamus. I agree that men are almost always into it and a friend of mine told me (he's a guy) that guys think about sex like, thrice a day. I can go on for a week without thinking about it!

    March 24, 2009 at 6:17 PM
  47. Faisal Admar said...

    No wonder I always get horny everywhere!! LOL.

    March 24, 2009 at 8:10 PM
  48. foongpc said...

    levian, perhaps, but I have lots of patience : )

    eastcoastlife,well, this is only in general, and not the same for every man : )

    khengsiong, yes, I wonder why? : )

    March 24, 2009 at 8:27 PM
  49. foongpc said...

    life ramblings, well you are lucky that your hubby is an exception! Hehe.

    JL, so you're just a ONE minute wonder? Haha! You don't look like those who are promiscuous, so OK, I believe you : )

    On whether I'm a 3-minute wonder, I've no comment. Haha!

    borneo falcon, thanks for the award! : )

    March 24, 2009 at 8:32 PM
  50. foongpc said...

    johnny ong, haha! No thesis. I just read from a book - didn't do any research : )

    cibol, don't forget to tell me the result of your tests. Haha! : )

    monica, yeah the only excuse men have that is backed by science. Haha!

    March 24, 2009 at 8:35 PM
  51. foongpc said...

    ayie, you are very lucky! Well, as I said earlier, it's in general only, there are always exceptions : )

    heidi, yes it's interesting indeed : )

    eiling, I think men didn't miss the most enjoyable part, it's the women who are missing it cos the men go to sleep after that 3 minute wonder! Haha!

    March 24, 2009 at 8:39 PM
  52. foongpc said...

    SK, you are correct, but generally, those who have higher sex drives are usually more promiscuous : )

    kenwooi, you agree because you have high sex drive? Haha!

    Google can do anything they want including banning your blog for whatever reasons they deem fit without letting you know the reasons, just like how they ban some blogs from using Google Adsense. So be warned! : )

    March 24, 2009 at 8:46 PM
  53. foongpc said...

    halfcrazy, haha! So there is some proof what the book said is correct! : )

    faisal admar, wow! Always horny? So naughty - Must be thinking about sex 24/7! : )

    March 24, 2009 at 8:53 PM
  54. Rad Sujanto said...

    interesting... what about feminine men? is there any relation to that 'theory'?

    March 24, 2009 at 10:12 PM
  55. Bengbeng said...

    one day if i am ever promiscuous n Mrs BB ever finds out hehe, i will refer her to yr post for an explanation. I will say I can't help it. It is all genetics :)

    March 24, 2009 at 10:27 PM
  56. foongpc said...

    rad, feminine men? Not this theory but another theory which will be in my next post! : )

    bengbeng, yes you can refer Mrs BB to this post but I don't think she will accept! Haha! Anyway, I know you are not the kind who are promiscuous by the way you blog : )

    March 25, 2009 at 12:02 AM
  57. Faisal Admar said...

    I have reduce porn "intake" and I keep myself busy with badminton. Play on Tue, Thurs and Sat. Seem impossible to get rid of it.

    March 25, 2009 at 12:25 AM
  58. Tekkaus said...

    I will always ensure that my wife gets satisfied first before me. Hmm... Haha =)

    March 25, 2009 at 8:33 AM
  59. foongpc said...

    faisal admar, that won't work for me. I get hornier after exercise! LOL!

    tekkaus, wow! So good one, you! Your wife is a lucky woman! Haha!

    March 26, 2009 at 5:39 PM
  60. Anonymous

    Foong, you are only half correct. I am neither promiscuous nor 3 minute wonder. But I believe as man, I do lack self control, but so far I still haven't done anything harmful to anybody :)

    March 26, 2009 at 6:44 PM
  61. foongpc said...

    jam, oh good to hear that man! Keep it up! Hehe : )

    March 26, 2009 at 7:14 PM
  62. Anonymous

    All men are promiscuous; otherwise, humans would be extinct since the year 40,000 BC.

    You can't simply reverse 1000,000 of years of polygamistic evolution in 1,000 of attempted monogamy

    August 29, 2011 at 1:24 AM
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